Recognizing the Signs of Domestic Violence-Self Assessment
RECOGNIZING THE SIGNS OF DOMESTIC VIOLENCE TAKE THE SELF ASSESSMENT BELOW… In previous post you learned that domestic violence takes many forms. There is not only physical abuse, there is also emotional and verbal abuse. In this post, you will recognize the warning signs of abuse and others, and if you are a victim of abuse yourself.
ARE YOU BEING ABUSED? Many times the victim of abuse is the last person to admit that they are in an abusive situation. There are many reasons for this. The victim doesn’t want to admit they’ve made a mistake, they may fear the unknown aspects of leaving their spouse or partner, they may believe that the partner can change, they may still have feelings of love for their partner, or they may simply not realize that their relationship is abusive. This last situation is actually quite common – when abuse evolves over a long, slow period of time, the victim often comes to think of the situation as normal.
DOMESTIC ABUSE SELF-ASSESSMENT If you suspect you may be in an abusive relationship, take this self-assessment test.
Does your partner:
Avoid certain topics of conversation for fear of angering your partner.
Have the feeling that you are walking on eggshells waiting for the next time your partner will lash out.
Believe that you can’t do anything right, No matter how hard you try.
Feel that you are emotionally dead end or numbed
sometimes feel like you are losing your mind are crazy.
If you recognize even a few of the signs and your own relationship, find a friend or relative you feel you can trust to confide in. Let them know what you’re going through and that you are in need of someone to talk to. They may encourage you to leave immediately; this is only because they are concerned about your well-being. Don’t pull away because you are ready to do this right away. Instead, let them know that while you may not be ready to take the final step at this time, you do know that you are in an abusive situation and that you need to make some changes, then ask for their patience and understanding. Having someone to confide in, can help you cope.
For your own emotional health and physical safety, however, you should begin to develop an escape plan for the future. In later posts, we will discuss ways to protect yourself, as well as how to escape from an abusive relationship. For now, the first step is to acknowledge that there is a problem so that you understand it is the other person’s problem, not yours, they can find someone you trust. This makes it real for you and gives you someone to turn to in moments of fear or stress.
IF YOU OR SOMEONE YOU KNOW IS IN A DOMESTIC VIOLENCE RELATIONSHIP, PLEASE CALL THE NATIONAL DOMESTIC VIOLENCE HOTLINE AT 1-800-799-7233 OR VISIT THEIR WEBSITE FOR MORE INFO AT: www.thehotline.org BREAK THE SILENCE!
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Lisa is certified in 7 different areas of natural wellness and holds a degree in Transformational Psychology. She is the founder of Lifeshare University of Healing, LLC, and the Published Author of Nine Amethyst Angels Self Help Book and the Personal Development CD Series "A Life from Roses to Lilies, Back to Seed.