Learning to Identify Patterns and Habits
Identifying the patterns of behavior that cause pain in life is not an easy task but it is
possible. Utilizing the posts within this blog will provide a lasting foundation for new behaviors by finding habits that negatively impact your life and change them positive empowering tasks.
Everyone has the choice to create a future that is different from their past. These next few blog posts hold famous techniques that have been used over the years to create a healing system that will empower you to forgive your past, heal your present, and transform your future. Lifeshare University of Healing is here to help you transform your dreams into your destiny.
Have you tried to change. But, even with the best of intentions, you end up doing the
same old things in the same old ways? You've read books, taken various courses, and
bought the T-shirt, a firm resolution... and even told all of your friends about these
promises, only to return swiftly to the same old place in your life?
Sometimes you feel worse and then beat yourself up for breaking your own promises. You still feel overweight, you still feel dissatisfied in the same job, you still follow the same old cycle of "I love you and can't live without you – I hate to and don't ever want to see you again." In your relationships. Does this sound familiar to you?
Do you want to feel all parts of you fully alive again? We learn our habits, emotionally therefore, we can only come to healing by releasing emotionally. This cannot be done by talking. It has been done by expressing the full range of emotions and arriving at a
complete sense of compassion for not only ourselves, but for our parents as well. This is a new education, and re-education of the emotional part of ourselves.
We can be let out of old patterns of behavior and can be taught, or more importantly teach ourselves new ways of being. It is a very emotional education, meaning that we feel our way through it, and by that method. It lodges in our own learning system. Without it, we would always have to have someone either doing the fishing for us are being paid to teach us how to fish. This way we can go and find our own food for our own nourishment.
As ritual, the process makes this passage into the world of self responsibility real and
true. Doing this work, you are taking time out of your regular life to undergo a set of
tasks and challenges, a kind of inner search for the Dragon. You confront this Dragon,
slay it (or sit down and have a cup of tea with it, learning the gift it can offer us), and
then go back into your regular life again to apply what you have learned. You are forever "marked" by this ritual.
The Hoffman Process by Tim Laurence shows us that there are three pillars of personal growth, education, and ritual. They build firm foundations upon which we can turn from a human doing into a human being. The Quadrinity model plays a key role. The Hoffman process explains that we are composed of four parts.
The four parts are:
Our emotional self develops from birth onward. Its function is to provide us the feelings and emotions needed in order to develop enjoyable and productive relationships with others, as well as ourselves. We need relationships to belong, to love and to be loved. When we experience any form of emotional deprivation as children, we acquire feelings of rejection, humiliation, abandonment, and betrayal, which we create in our sub-sequent relationships. Our emotional well-being and growth can be stunted. And we do not mature emotionally. Childish patterns can remain. We say "no" without thinking or automatically reply “I can't do that” when facing a new challenge because we are petrified of being criticized.
The intellectual self develops from around six years onward. Its function is to provide
us with clear thought and reason in order to make decisions in a healthy and rational way. It is required for the development of reason and to ensure survival as we continue to grow and mature. We are driven forward in the world by our need to know when this is not encouraged or is overstressed in childhood, we develop feelings of being
stupid, inadequate, confused, or even mentally unbalanced.
A positive intellectual aspect provides us good judgment and discernment. A negative
aspect internalizes the voice of the critical parent by saying, "don't do that." And "don't
be so stupid." It has over develop its critical faculty and turned it in on itself or is always
looking for faults and others. It's a side of us that is defensive, self-righteous, hates to be wrong. and loves to have the last word.
As emotional adults, we would like to be able to respond and articulate our own feelings, but sadly, many of us, stay repressed or depressed. The worst part of it is that we don't even keep the childlike part of ourselves alive – the happy, enthusiastic, spontaneous person inside. What we have in charged most of the time is a highly rational side, what the Hoffman process calls the "adult intellect". We believe that we have to look like we have it all together, sound intelligent, be efficient and productive, and generally miss out on the fun. This has disastrous consequences on our internal peace. At other times, it's the emotional self or "child" inside that is in charge, hijacking our responses to a situation. We come across as being dramatic and highly anxious, or you want to throw in the towel and call it quits.
A large emphasis of this process is on reconciling the emotional (child or old brain) and
intellectual (adult or new brain) aspects of your personality. Through this, you can then
integrate the four parts of your being. To enable this to happen, first we have to
explore in depth - the relationship with your caregivers when you were children and to understand the effect that these relationships have had upon your subsequent emotional, mental, physical, and spiritual development.
By first understanding childhood experiences and then working through them, you will be able to separate yourself from rigid belief systems and parental character traits, as well as potential emotional trauma that may have been sabotaging your adult life in one way or another. Once this separation has occurred, you can experience a profound inner healing with long-lasting results. You will be able to heal by letting go of the past, and you will be able to live in the present.
you will also be getting to know a part of you that is free from any programs or
conditioning. We call this part, the spiritual self or essence inside. Think of it as the
diamonds that lives within each of us, the Clear Channel of light. Its always there, even if
we are completely caught up in our own day to day struggles. It's the voice within, the
part that leads us towards our greater potential. It is our connection with God and the
Your spiritual self will be much more available to you once you look at and do some
major cleansing of your own patterns. We dig up our garden of life and pull out the
weeds layer by layer that have grown over the years... until we get to the roots and let
you reconnect with your true self- your diamond essence. By doing this, you are led back
to your own truth and your own vision of how things really can be. You are put back in
touch with your own wisdom and intuition. You will learn to trust that the answers lie
within. Your spiritual self, what to experience love and joy arising from a source that
knows no limit.
The fourth element is one that you can touch and feel at any time. It's your physical
reality, the body. Throughout the posts stay in touch with how your body responds
when you feel and emotion. Stay in touch with your body when you go through a guided visualization. Listen to its response under stress and in times of peace. Learn to honor its own magic and mystery. It's the home of your spiritual self during your lifetime.
To help learn how to relax and free your mind of worry, visit our free podcast page at www.mindbodyspirit.podbean.com and listen to our free recorded guided meditations.
Allow me to ask you these few questions to get your mind going....
I would love to hear any feedback or responses during this series of blog posts so please do comment!
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Lisa is certified in 7 different areas of natural wellness and holds a degree in Transformational Psychology. She is the founder of Lifeshare University of Healing, LLC, and the Published Author of Nine Amethyst Angels Self Help Book and the Personal Development CD Series "A Life from Roses to Lilies, Back to Seed.